Thursday, August 8, 2013

30 things every woman should have and should know by 30

My girlfriend and fellow blogger posted this last week and I thought it would be neat to see what I can cross off the list for myself. 
Click here to see Haley's blog or here to see the original post.

     I'm a sucker for lists. There is something incredibly satisfying about seeing a whole bunch of stuff neatly jotted down on a piece of paper and getting to cross off each item one by one. Not too long ago I sat down and started a list of things I want to accomplish by my next birthday. I was a little skeptical to write down a few things that I really want to do this coming year (drive a Ferrari, get my entire back tattooed, epic road trip, etc.) because they seem really far fetched. But, I wrote them down anyway as a way to challenge myself because really, if I only write down the things I know I can accomplish (tour Tuscany on a Vespa, go blonde, CHBP, etc.), there is no real satisfaction or enjoyment if everything comes easy. The struggle and the time constraint, to me, is half the fun.

     The following list is not my own, but still a good list and it has made its rounds all over the globe. It's not a 'before I die' kind of list or even a serious bucket list but a nice one that helped me see my life from a different perspective. I think the idea was to gauge whether or not a woman has a strong hold on her life, and whether she knows how to see and embrace "the bigger picture." 

By 30, you should have:
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come. 
          "Never go back to an old love, it's like reading a book over and over again, when you already know how it ends." Fact.
2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour. 
4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age. 
          Haha, I don't necessarily think I have a "juicy" past, but I've definitely got some incredibly insane/ humorously horrific stories under my belt.
7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age—and some money set aside to help fund it.
8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account—all of which nobody has access to but you.
9. A resume that is not even the slightest bit padded.
10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry. 
         I'm one of the lucky ones who gets to have a handful of this kind of friend.
11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.
12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
13. The belief that you deserve it. 

14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better. 
          I wouldn't say that I don't have a solid start... I think I do, I'm just not sure if it's satisfying yet...

By 30, you should know:
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself.  

2. How you feel about having kids.
3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend with-out ruining the friendship.
          I've dated 'boys' and married a man, so I hope I don't ever have to know how to break up with a man. =\ Well, I know how to- I just hope I don't ever HAVE to. 
4. When to try harder and when to walk away. 
          Very tough thing to learn how to do but once you get the hang of it, it's very cleansing for the soul.
5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town.
7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
8. Where to go—be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat—when your soul needs soothing.
9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.
10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long. 

13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault. 
          I'm half way there, I've learned how to not feel bad about things I can't control so soon enough I'll learn how to not apologize for things I didn't do.
15. Why they say life begins at 30!

     I must say I'm rather impressed that I got to cross off so much on this list. There are definitely somethings I need to work on. I've got a few more years left to work on it so I'm not too worried. =)

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